Ending a relationship
Ending a relationship can often feel painful, difficult and even embarrassing.
So how do you spot the signs that your relationship is coming to an end?
- You stop wanting to spend time together
- When you are together you argue more and more
- Arguments become silly or petty
- Your friends or family start to notice how unhappy you are when you are together
- The things you used to like about them are now really annoying you
So you realise it is over, what is the best way to end it?
- Be kind, but firm
- Don’t just drop hints or leave them guessing
- Practice what you want to say beforehand. Avoid vague comments such as “I think I want to end it…” or “I need some space or time to think.”
- Think about how you are going to tell them
- No one wants to be dumped by text, Facebook or msn
- If face to face is impossible then think about a letter or phone call
“.. I once dumped my girlfriend by text, the next day everyone said what a coward I was. Never again.” Luke, 16.
It doesn’t matter if you have known each other for one month or one year or longer, it can still feel like the end of the world. So how can you feel better sooner and move on with your life?
- Accept that staying friends may not be possible straight away
- Give yourself time to be upset, talk to friends or someone you trust
- It’s good to think about what went wrong but try not to blame just one person
- Be good to yourself, do things that make you feel better not worse
- Let your friends and family know that you may need a little extra support and understanding
- Accept that over time, it will feel better
“ ..when my boyfriend and I split up I was devastated but now I realise we just weren’t getting on. Accepting it was over was hard but my friends helped me through it.” Jess, 15
Date of Review: 14/02/2013
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